Saturday 28 May 2016
I Love You, Because You're Here
Out of the blue, she blurted "I love you because you're here...."
I didn't need to double confirm from books and articles that our presence as parents is what they mostly need. Not out in the park, the malls, the beach or outdoor, not even the toys. It's right here, with them. I, her mother, is enough to make her day worthwhile and happy.
It was past lunch time when she did her usual play routine. I was with her, though not participating on her play. She came closer to me busy with something she got engaged to. Out of the blue she blurted, I love you because you're here. She didn't mind, but I did.
I came close to her and asked her, "are you happy when I'm here?" She nodded and smiled. Then proceeded with her business.
It is not supposedly surprising to me hearing this revelation. But when it came straight from my own, it hit a heartstring. I realized its not our outdoor trips that made her smile. It wasn't my biggest attempt of arranging her play area that made her happy. It was me. It was my presence.
Her play area meant nothing if I wasn't there to pretend as her student, while she, a teacher. She would ask me to go and sit down and would specifically tell me "not like that, do like this..." when she wanted me to do something that I quite couldn't get what she meant.
Sure, articles are flying and the knowledge is there that presence is in fact, not just a mere fad about parenting. It's an undebatable fact that is it a necessity. Not something you can just close your eyes and convince yourself that it is okay. For me, it is not OKAY. It is never okay to rob your child the chance to be with you and force that it is going to be alright. It will never be alright for them. Our job is to quit prioritizing other things. That's parenting.
Friday 6 May 2016
When Adults Become Malicious
Earlier I posted a video about my daughter playing along with her cousins. Windows were shut, series lights were turned on, music of their choice was played, raw macaroni was being poured on my daughter's head as they enjoyed their self-directed play.
As I looked in surprise, I got delighted how creative they have been. Clearly it was a fun all discovered by them, putting all the elements together, light's off to appreciate the series lights blinking in a dark room, music on based on their preference. Well, the collection of music my nephew had were all modern pop wherein my daughter was also familiar of.
Stepping back, if I switched on my "adult mind or orientation," or probably my judgmental button, I would automatically, without any doubt, associate it to being similar to "clubbing." But, looking at the scenario at their own perspective, they have never been to such places. Doing it at their own exploration and discovery is something that's non-addicting, and entirely far from being harmful or even morally questionable.
What is questionable is how we adults attempt or jump at associating things they do to how our orientation is. It is honestly similar to putting malice when a child curiously asks what a penis is.
You might find it funny, but what is funnier is how adults think so differently from young kids.
The scenario on my video was a plain example of young children enjoying and just having fun with the blinking lights, showering macaroni while enjoying the music. I myself introduced the series lights to my daughter with windows shut and lights off--to appreciate the wonder of a blinking series light which by the way won't be enticing for exploration if the windows are opened.
Dark does not equate to bad. It is similar to black versus white. These are natural things around. Colors, bright or dark, boys and girls. Bisexual people are being maliciously misinterpreted because that's how young kids are being influenced by adult perceptions. Thats how adult mind operates differently from young kids.
If you are so used to being with kids, especially the young ones, your perception about the world changes. You'd realize how adults poison little kids' minds. Your influence is very critical and if you are not very much aware of it, better get a proper education first before you poison a child's exploring and curious little beings.
As I looked in surprise, I got delighted how creative they have been. Clearly it was a fun all discovered by them, putting all the elements together, light's off to appreciate the series lights blinking in a dark room, music on based on their preference. Well, the collection of music my nephew had were all modern pop wherein my daughter was also familiar of.
Stepping back, if I switched on my "adult mind or orientation," or probably my judgmental button, I would automatically, without any doubt, associate it to being similar to "clubbing." But, looking at the scenario at their own perspective, they have never been to such places. Doing it at their own exploration and discovery is something that's non-addicting, and entirely far from being harmful or even morally questionable.
What is questionable is how we adults attempt or jump at associating things they do to how our orientation is. It is honestly similar to putting malice when a child curiously asks what a penis is.
You might find it funny, but what is funnier is how adults think so differently from young kids.
The scenario on my video was a plain example of young children enjoying and just having fun with the blinking lights, showering macaroni while enjoying the music. I myself introduced the series lights to my daughter with windows shut and lights off--to appreciate the wonder of a blinking series light which by the way won't be enticing for exploration if the windows are opened.
Dark does not equate to bad. It is similar to black versus white. These are natural things around. Colors, bright or dark, boys and girls. Bisexual people are being maliciously misinterpreted because that's how young kids are being influenced by adult perceptions. Thats how adult mind operates differently from young kids.
If you are so used to being with kids, especially the young ones, your perception about the world changes. You'd realize how adults poison little kids' minds. Your influence is very critical and if you are not very much aware of it, better get a proper education first before you poison a child's exploring and curious little beings.
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